Did You Just Say “Breast Cancer”?

ShockAlthough we still need to run some tests, I think it is clear to all of us that we are dea­ling with breast cancer.”

These words came from a man I barely knew, whom I had met just an hour before these words were spo­ken. This man is my breast can­cer doc­tor. His words shat­te­red my con­fi­dence and belief in my own abi­lity to live fore­ver. In a sin­gle moment, my life flashed in front of me, my plans for the future were called into ques­tion, and the hap­pi­ness I had begun my day with was sud­denly and com­ple­tely oversha­do­wed by these terrif­ying words.

Who am I, and why am I telling you my story?

My name is Syl­vie. I am an ordi­nary 36 year old Cana­dian woman. I am the mother of three tee­na­gers. I own my own busi­ness and my home is my office. After 12 years of being a sin­gle mom, I am get­ting married in a few days, to the man who is my soul­mate, The One I have been wai­ting for my entire life. Until today, my future was bright and full of inc­re­di­ble pro­mise. And now, I face an uncer­tain and frigh­te­ning future.

I have been diag­no­sed with breast can­cer

I will be using this jour­nal to tell my story, to share the adven­ture with all of you, in hopes that my story will perhaps help someone else who may be strug­gling with this as well.

I know I am not alone. Accor­ding to the World Health Orga­ni­za­tion, more than 1.2 million peo­ple will be diag­no­sed with breast can­cer this year world­wide. I am told that the 5 year sur­vi­val rate for women who deve­lop breast can­cer in their 30’s is much lower than for those in their 60’s. I am also told that the ove­rall sur­vi­val rate over a 20 year period is slightly over 50%.

These are terrif­ying sta­tis­tics, and after pos­ting this mes­sage, I plan to com­ple­tely ignore them. I refuse to give them further thought or con­si­de­ra­tion. They are not impor­tant to my hea­ling pro­cess. They can only serve to frigh­ten me and make me ques­tion my resolve to survive.

Above all, this story is not about how I sur­vi­ved breast can­cer. It is about how I beat the snot out of it. It is about the triumph over pain, tears and sad­ness I am about to go through. It’s about how I, and my family, sta­red into the face of fear and said “Get lost! I don’t DO fear!”

I deci­ded to deli­ver my story in real time, as it hap­pens, in this jour­nal. This is my the­rapy, and my way of sha­ring the story in its raw, une­di­ted form. It is my hope that other peo­ple who encoun­ter dif­fi­cul­ties can read this and gain strength from kno­wing that they are not alone.

It isn’t just for breast can­cer sur­vi­vors, and it isn’t just for women either. It’s a story of one woman’s expe­rien­ces with life’s hurd­les, and how ordi­nary peo­ple can become extraor­di­nary heroes in just a few brief moments when life brings unex­pec­ted change. If you’re won­de­ring, when I say hero, I’m not tal­king about me. I’m tal­king about the peo­ple in my life who are my heroes. I’m also pre­dic­ting that there will be many sur­prise heroes along the way, peo­ple who seem to come out of the wood­work when they are most nee­ded. Peo­ple who would never call them­sel­ves heroes, but they are, nonetheless.

This is the story of how my life chan­ged in one ins­tant, and how I am going to make this new life bet­ter than it was before…

59 Comments so far »

  1. Ted and Kim said on:

    September 8, 2006 at 10:07 pm

    You know we love ya swee­tie and wha­te­ver energy we pos­ses is ALL YOURS on Monday!

    Love, Ted and Kim

  2. Jillian Wheeler said on:

    September 8, 2006 at 11:10 pm

    Hi, Syl­vie,

    I’m a friend of Craig’s, and part of his mas­ter­mind group. I’ve heard so much about you over the past year, it feels as though you’re a friend.

    Thanks for sha­ring this pro­cess in such an open and cou­ra­geous way — it’s a gift to other women and the men who love us.

    You’re in my pra­yers. I see you surroun­ded in Uni­ver­sal light, and vibrantly healthy.

    Jill

  3. Dr.Mani said on:

    September 8, 2006 at 11:53 pm

    Syl­vie, there are wHi­ners, and then there are wiN­Ners… and you most defi­ni­tely are a WINNER!

    Years and years wor­king in a pro­fes­sio­nal capa­city as heart sur­geon with my spe­cial ‘win­ners’ — these ama­zing, very tiny little sur­vi­vors — has given me a uni­que insight into taking lemons and tur­ning them into something sweet, nice and fun to drink :)

    Where most folks would take the self-​​pitying “Oh, woe is me” route, you have loo­ked on the sil­ver lining — and tur­ned it into an awa­re­ness buil­der to help others. More power to you!

    My own Heart Kids Blo­gathon — http://​www​.Heart​Kids​Blo​gathon​.info — kicks off in a few hours from now, and it seeks to honor the other heroes I work with by focu­sing atten­tion on a battle they fight every day against an oft-​​ignored, yet deadly group of diseases/​defects — con­ge­ni­tal heart disease.

    True, can­cer is a shock. It’s bad when it hap­pens to someone very close to you. Much worse when it hits even clo­ser to home — and you are the ‘cho­sen’ one.

    But the good news is it is bea­ta­ble. My parents both had can­cer, almost 10 years back. Both are now fully free of the disease. It is a fight you WILL win — keep up the great attitude.

    And at your side, stan­ding like a ROCK, you have one of the stron­gest peo­ple I’ve had the plea­sure of mee­ting — your loving hus­band, Michel For­tin. Both of you will be in my pra­yers and I look for­ward to hea­ring about your quick and com­plete reco­very before long!

    Good luck, and all success

    Dr.Mani

    P.S. — Here’s a link that many visi­tors to your blog will find use­ful — it’s a video teaching correct breast self-​​examination.

    http://​www​.chec​koutmy​breasts​.com/

  4. Shiv Singh said on:

    September 9, 2006 at 6:18 am

    Hi Syl­vie,

    You won’t remem­ber me, but we spoke when the two of you came to the UK recently for the World Inter­net Sum­mit. You were such an ins­pi­ra­tion to us all. I want you to know that you can come through this.
    A collea­gue of mine was her­self diag­no­sed some three years ago, and is now ok. Her story was just this week fea­tu­red in the natio­nal press here.
    Visit this link thesun.co.uk/article/0„11000–2006410482.html I hope it gives you added strength.

    Look for­ward to mee­ting the two of you again.

    Shiv

  5. Kimberly Spear said on:

    September 9, 2006 at 10:40 pm

    Syl­vie,
    le coeur de la beaute’.
    ’Heart of beauty’
    That is the essence of who you are.

    The word ‘cou­rage’ comes from coeur.
    “This is cou­rage.. to bear unflinchingly what hea­ven sends.” Euripedes

    I see such beauty and cou­rage in you. You will soar through this with
    the love and grace that you so freely give to others.
    You are truly an angel.

    Remem­ber, He sees your heart and has sent you an angel.

    My pra­yers for you and Michel are con­ti­nual. A day does not
    go by without a thought and a smile about you two.

    Thank you for all that you give.

    Kim­berly

  6. Terry Davis said on:

    September 9, 2006 at 10:42 pm

    Syl­vie,
    Its been a while since we chatted,but you are never far from my thoughts.

    You have ins­pi­red me since the moment I met you, you are one of the stron­gest women I have ever met, I’m having a hard time kno­wing the right words to say so I’ll just say…I know you are a sur­vi­vor and a figh­ter and if anyone can beat this thing it is you!

    Dean and I are pra­ying for you and we will be on Mon­day morning!

    Love,
    Terry

    Thank you for sha­ring your jour­ney with us it will have a las­ting impact!

  7. Barbara Eyre said on:

    September 9, 2006 at 11:16 pm

    Syl­vie,

    My thoughts and pra­yers are with you for Monday.

    You are defi­na­tely an ins­pi­ra­tion to anyone going
    through any long term ill­ness of any variety.

    HUGS
    Barbara

  8. Nell Taliercio said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 12:36 am

    You WILL beat this Syl­vie. I know it in my heart. You’re such a strong woman and have so much to live for. My Grand­mother had Breast Can­cer well over 15 years ago (and had a mas­te­comy) and is healthy and going strong. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  9. Debbie Campbell said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 8:32 am

    Dear Syl­vie,
    I just recei­ved an email from your hus­band about your sur­gery. I wan­ted to send my wishes for peace and hea­ling. May God’s bles­sings shine down on you and keep you strong and posi­tive. I don’t know either of you per­so­nally but my heart goes out to you at this dif­fi­cult time in your young life.
    Deb­bie Campbell

  10. Catalina said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 8:56 am

    Dear Syl­vie,
    I’ m from Europe, Roma­nia. So far, but yet so near. I’ ve seen your husband’s mes­sage, Michael For­tin ( I’m a copyw­ri­ter– or I wanna be a good one!). I was impres­sed.
    I wish you all the best! And I hope you’ll have the strength to go on!
    God bless you!

    Cata­lina D.

  11. Tatiana Velitchkov said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 9:02 am

    Syl­vie,

    My thoughts and pra­yers are with you today…
    You are a SURVIVOR and you will over­come this, I am sure of it!
    You are such a strong and beau­ti­ful woman that has so much
    to live for — your chil­dren, and your soul mate, and all that YOU
    ARE, and the rest of what you have in you to share with the world!
    Even if I don’t know you per­so­nally I feel so close to you and wish
    you a speedy reco­very and all the love and suc­cess in the world!

    Warmly
    Tatiana V.

  12. Irene said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 9:19 am

    While most of the world is focu­sed on the US today, some of us are focu­sed on you & your family. My pra­yers go out to you and your family. I hope all goes well and you have many more years to bask in the love of your family. Irene

  13. Richard Bailey said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 9:23 am

    Kee­ping you in pra­yer and asking the Lord to con­ti­nue suppl­ying you with cou­rage and strength. All things have a rea­son even though we don’t always see it or unders­tand it right away. I feel that you will be a bles­sing to others — just as they will be to you.

    Richard

  14. Greg Thomas said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 9:28 am

    Dear Syl­vie,

    On this day when we here in NY and the Uni­ted Sta­tes com­me­mo­rate 9/​11, I pray that your ope­ra­tion is successful.

    I can only ima­gine that this disease must seem like an inter­nal terro­rist bent on des­truc­tion. But your indo­mi­ta­ble spi­rit is at war with that inva­der called can­cer, and based on what I’ve lear­ned about you through your dear hus­band, and your own words on this blog, you will come out victorious!

    Know that you, Michel, and your family will remain in my prayers.

    Bles­sings,
    Greg Thomas

  15. Dale said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 9:54 am

    Syl­vie, today’s the day you leap past a cha­llenge. Days, follo­wed by weeks, months and years of vic­tory lie ahead. We’re in our ninth year since my wife, Mary Jo, faced breast can­cer. Not a sin­gle com­pli­ca­tion in that period of almost a decade. We’ll pray the same for you!

    Look for­ward to a great wee­kend with you two at the Big Semi­nar in Atlanta.

    Phi­lip Dale Smith
    “The Close-​​Knit Family Guy”

  16. Christopher Johnson said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 10:17 am

    Hi Michel and Sylvie,

    I just got your dis­tur­bing news this mor­ning. Your thoughts and pra­yers from both Anne, myself and Sir Wins­ton our white per­sian feline go with you. On an inte­res­ting note… I think you might find this a bit of encou­ra­ge­ment if you are a Chris­tian. In my eBook Daily Rea­dings I read for today the rea­dings for Sep­tem­ber 11, 2006 and these are some excerpts which really stood out to me as encou­ra­ge­ment which I’ll share with you.

    Sep­tem­ber 11, 2006

    2 Corinthians 12:9
    My grace is suf­fi­cient for you, for power is made per­fect in weak­ness. So, I will boast all the more gladly of my weak­ness, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.

    Prov 23:4
    Do not wear your­self out to get rich; be wise enough to desist.

    Psalm 55:22
    Cast your bur­den on the Lord, and he will sus­tain you; he will never per­mit the righ­teous to be moved.

    Isaiah 9:2
    The peo­ple who wal­ked in dark­ness have seen a great light; those who lived in a land of deep dark­ness – on them light has shined.

    Isaiah 9:6–7
    For a child has been born for us, a son given to us; autho­rity rests upon his shoul­ders; and he is named Won­der­ful Coun­se­lor, Mighty God, Ever­las­ting Father, Prince of Peace.
    His autho­rity shall grow con­ti­nually, and there shall be end­less pea­ce­for the throne of David and his king­dom. He will esta­blish and uphold it with jus­tice and with righ­teous­ness from this time onwards and for ever­more. The zeal of the Lord of hosts will do this.

    May you find this a bles­sing in your life,
    You’re in our prayers,

    Chris­topher, Anne and Sir Winston

  17. Sherri Diamond said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 10:24 am

    Syl­vie,

    My pra­yers are with you and many others who are figh­ting and have fought this and other horri­ble disea­ses. I know many peo­ple who have been for­tu­nate enough to find a pro­duct that came into my life and saved my mother’s life. Iro­ni­cally, today, 9/​11/​06 which is the day you are having your mas­tec­tomy is also the 5 year anni­ver­sary of a horri­ble attack on the U.S., but also the 5 yr anni­ver­sary date of the patent given to this inc­re­di­ble natu­ral pro­duct that was put on this earth by G-​​d (crea­ted from lava from vol­ca­nos mixing with sea salt). Syl­vie, it remo­ves heavy metals (only the bad ones) and toxins and other “substances”.

    Please feel free to email me at sherridiamond@​hotmail.​com so we can chat. I’m on a mis­sion to help many, many peo­ple and this pro­duct has allo­wed me to start to do that. The web­site for some more info is http://​www​.zeo​li​teinfo​.com Feel free to share it with others too.

    How many lives can we affect? I know every man, woman, child and dog can bene­fit from this.

    My pra­yers are with you and your won­der­ful chil­dren and husband!

    Love,
    She­rri
    P.S. this can help take out the bad stuff they used during your pro­ce­dure too!

  18. shahrir hj ahmad said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 12:41 pm

    Dear Syl­vie,
    be brave in endu­ring what you are going through. The Almighty is put­ting a test on you to see how you can over­come it. Don’t feel that you are alone as we are all with you. Think of this test as a step­ping stone to achieve grea­ter heights. Dif­fe­rent peo­ple go through dif­fe­rent test. With patience and pra­yers, you will get through it safely.
    My pra­yers are with you.

    Shah­rir Hj Ahmad
    ssshjah@​yahoo.​com

  19. John Ritskowitz said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 3:07 pm

    Hi, Syl­vie.

    I recei­ved Michel’s email this mor­ning about your sur­gery, and I just wan­ted to tell you that both my wife and my thoughts and pra­yers are with you and your family! From Michel I have lear­ned how strong of a per­son you are, and after rea­ding your blog here I can see why. Although I’ve never had the plea­sure of mee­ting you in per­son, some day I will. I can see how happy you and your husband/​soulmate are together. And I can also tell that you are both sur­vi­vors. I pray that the sur­gery goes well, and I take some com­fort in the fact that you know you are not alone.

    Warmly,

    John Rits­ko­witz

  20. Pat Becker said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 3:49 pm

    There is a force in the uni­verse that loves and sup­ports you in all things. Be in the kno­wing of that love and in the love of the great uni­verse of friends who are with you today and in the days to come as you recover.

    Grace,
    Pat Becker

  21. Jennifer Carter said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 4:45 pm

    Hello Syl­vie,
    I wish you bles­sings, quick reco­very and unen­ding ser­vings of that opti­mism that you seem to write with in your blogs. I am a subsc­ri­ber on one of Michael’s lists and it’s heart-​​warming to read of and feel his love for you through his e-​​mails… and the sub­se­quent love that you write about. Since we are all con­nec­ted somehow, I am sorry that you are going through sur­gergy for the cancer…However, since we are all con­nec­ted somehow, know that you have the strength and love of many many peo­ple surroun­ding you and spee­ding you toward fully reco­ve­ring and con­ti­nuing your life with this Man of Your Dreams. Take care of your­self and take care of your family. Thank you for sha­ring your expe­rien­ces, fears and hope. I wish you the abso­lute best! Sin­ce­rely, Jen­ni­fer Car­ter p.s. Since I know that you’ve spent days and days researching the inter­net, perhaps you came across this. But in case you didn’t, please take a look at this brief article on Vita­min C drips and can­cer cures:

  22. Adrienne said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 8:34 pm

    Hi Syl­vie
    I wish you well on your jour­ney.
    And I think it sucks.
    You will meet someone who can help you…very soon.
    And may I recom­mend Kine­seo­logy. (not sure how it’s spelt)!!

    Luv and hugs
    Adrienne
    New Zealand

  23. manuel said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 10:51 pm

    Dear Syl­vie I speak only spa­nish, pero le deseo lo mejor en este trance, solo le pido a Dios todo­po­de­roso que le ayude en todo lo que se pueda, con mucha tris­teza me des­pido aten­ta­mente, Manuel, San­tiago Chile.

  24. George Callens said on:

    September 11, 2006 at 11:45 pm

    Hi Syl­vie,

    I’ve been follo­wing the posts from you and Michel. They’ve brought tears and even laugh­ter to our eyes (Tu and I).

    I unders­tand you under­went sur­gery today. I’m sure that get­ting it over with is a relief.

    I know the upco­ming treat­ments will be hard maybe more so emo­tio­nally than phy­si­cally. But with Michel by your side and with all your friends pulling for you I you’ll come through it a bet­ter person.

    Some peo­ple, me inc­lu­ded, believe that an invi­si­ble force of nature can be direc­ted from a group to an indi­vi­dual. This force can strengh­ten, heal and sup­port both phy­si­cally and emo­tio­nally. Some peo­ple call this pra­yer, others just look at it as har­nes­sing an unk­nown force.

    Either way, that’s what we, your friends are doing for you now.

    We were with you in sur­gery and will remain with you throughout recovery.

    Don’t be afraid to lean on us in the future. We are here for both you and Michel. As I feel he needs us almost as much as you do.

    I’m loo­king for­ward to visi­ting, in per­son, with you in Atlanta!

    With Love,

    George & Tu Callens

  25. Gisela said on:

    September 12, 2006 at 12:09 am

    Hi Syl­vie,
    We haven’t met, but I am a sur­vi­vor of two breast can­cers– the first 25 years ago, the next, ten years, so we have that in com­mon. I have opted for alter­na­tive treat­ment, and have never regre­ted it. You have a great atti­tude, and opti­mal sup­port, and I wish you the very very best.

    You have my very best wishes. I’m sure you will have a splen­did reco­very, because of your upbeat atti­tude. Sure, there will be good times and bad times, but the good one will prevail.

    Much love, Gisela

  26. Malachi said on:

    September 12, 2006 at 10:25 pm

    Although we don’t know each other and are unli­kely to ever meet, I just wan­ted to send posi­tive thoughts and fee­lings your way for a healthy recovery…

  27. Daniel said on:

    September 13, 2006 at 12:35 am

    A per­so­nal note:
    To the most Cou­ra­geous Friend one can have; and I do?
    Dear Friend;
    As I have the grea­test plea­sure to call you my dear friend; these words are not being use lightly. Howe­ver; has life pro­pels us to other level, it bring with it more cha­llen­ges and test, and some­time ques­tions.
    When it come to you though; and my know­ledge of your cou­rage, it leave me with a wander……..not a ques­tion. The ans­wer it is your story. NO WORDS CAN EXPRESS WHAT I AM FEELING RIGHT THIS MOMENT, but you will know.
    Syl­vie; I have always believe we have a pur­pose here? For the many years we have known each other. You have been encou­ra­ging all to stand tall, even when you’re down……replacing pain with smile, giving of your self, and to list……it is end­less, to day my friend I am stan­ding with you, even at a distance.

    I must say it was one of the most dif­fi­cult moments of my life when I open your email; you remin­ded me that on mat­ter how bad we think our own life’s are, kee­ping touch is very impor­tant. So we do miss being there?

    My rea­sons for not sho­wing up at your place, for with your announcement……..nothing I have to say or could say, could change what I feel today?

    I send you my love………with no words……. con­ti­nue to be my dear friend; NOT allo­wing the norm to take con­trol of you.

    Thanks you for the cou­rage at price of your own pain.

    May the Angels of the East, West, North and South do their best to watch out while you rest and reco­ver you to your BEST?

    Loving you always dear friend!

  28. Suz said on:

    September 15, 2006 at 5:30 pm

    Hi Syl­vie,
    I’m a co-​​worker of Shiela’s in Boise. She sha­red your story with me and I felt my heart strings being tug­ged on — as I am a 3-​​time sur­vi­vor — since 1989.
    By “Pookie’s” desc­rip­tion of your inner strength, cou­rage and humor, you’ll face this with much grace and dig­nity. You Go Girl!
    You have the right atti­tude, and I’m con­fi­dent you will be triumphant in your hea­ling. The strength you will be able to lean on from your family and friends will be the grea­test gift of all — don’t be afraid to use it — it’s pri­ce­less!
    Best of luck, keep smi­ling and please con­ti­nue to jour­nal your thoughts.
    Suz

  29. Fran Klasinski said on:

    September 17, 2006 at 8:25 pm

    Dear Syl­vie ( & Michel)

    Rea­ding your story and the mar­ve­llous sup­por­ting mes­sa­ges here remin­ded me of my own cha­llenge with Cancer.

    You are right to ignore sta­tis­tics as they are based on a norm that sel­dom fits who we are.

    I had my bout in 1981. The prog­no­sis was that I had five years at best. There were also recom­men­da­tions that I undergo serious sur­gery to strip lymph nodes around my right arm, arm­pit and up my neck.

    I was so furious that this was my plight that I refu­sed to do more than the sur­gery to remove the tumor. .

    I am here today because I simply told can­cer to get lost and meant it. There was not room for it and me in the same body.

    Your strength and cou­rage come from kno­wing who you are and what you want from life. You stick to your guns and you go girl.

    My dee­pest pra­yers for a speedy and suc­cess­ful reco­very are being sent daily. While we have never met, we share the strength and cou­rage to win. And win you shall as well.

    God Bless
    Fran
    Tren­ton, Ontario

  30. James Opiko said on:

    September 20, 2006 at 1:19 am

    I am a casual once in a while visi­tor to Copyw​ri​ters​Board​.com and do receive upda­tes from Michel regularly.

    I am touched by your courage.…really touched!

    Good Luck!

  31. stuvian said on:

    September 23, 2006 at 12:03 am

  32. Dale King said on:

    September 23, 2006 at 6:15 pm

    Hello Michel & Sylvie:

    I’ve never met you guys per­so­nally, but I’m loo­king for­ward to the day that I do.

    I anti­ci­pate that will be one of the hap­piest days of my life.

    You both exhi­bit so much class, cou­rage and dignity.

    I have so much res­pect and admi­ra­tion for you both.

    If I can ever do anything for either of you, please don’t hesi­tate to ask.

    Best of luck to you both!

    Your new friend,
    Dale King

  33. Anthony Berry said on:

    September 23, 2006 at 7:26 pm

    Hi Syl­vie
    I spoke to you breifly when you and Michel came to Wem­bley this year. I have read how strong you are and I am sure you will get through this tes­ting time. Wealth is often mea­su­red in mone­tary terms. But I think when you are going through a tough time it is the love and sup­port of friends and loved ones that really shows how wealthy you are. I can see from the list of mes­sa­ges above that you are bles­sed with won­der­ful friends, family and a hus­band. We should all trea­sure every moment we spend with the ones we love and care for.

    My catch friends to a staff net­work is stay powe­red up !!

    God Bless
    Tony
    London

  34. Judy Kettenhofen said on:

    September 23, 2006 at 7:36 pm

    Hi Syl­vie –
    We’ve met, though you may not remem­ber me (or maybe you will — there’re not that many women of my age and body type run­ning around inter­net mar­ke­ting semi­nars …:) ). I first met Michel in 6/​2005 at Galletti’s Inter­net Mar­ke­ting Super­Con­fe­rence, and have run into the both of you sub­se­quently at Big­Se­mi­nar 6 and Under­ground II.

    I’m proud to know you, proud to see your cou­rage and facing what the doc­tors and others may think is the worst thing that can hap­pen to you — but you rea­lize how much big­ger you are than any disease. Some­ti­mes the world, espe­cially the medi­cal world, does not always let you expe­rience this, seeing you as a vic­tim, ins­tead of a vic­tor. (So, I really like the name of your blog.)

    As someone trai­ned in hyp­no­tism — I know that the “trance” that the medi­cal world puts folks in by such words as “diag­no­sis” and “prog­no­sis” can be frigh­te­ning and enfee­bling. The recog­ni­tion of the effect of recei­ving a less than posi­tive diag­no­sis and prog­no­sis from someone “in autho­rity” is stress­ful — and that’s the LAST thing you need: stress has been shown scien­ti­fi­cally to reduce the effec­ti­ve­ness of the immune sys­tem (they tes­ted medi­cal stu­dents right before exams, and right after exams.)

    I know it is a time of many deci­sions, and diver­sions from your expec­ted plans — I know that there are many, many peo­ple out there giving you advice, telling you sto­ries. And I know you will be care­ful about what beliefs that well-​​meaning peo­ple inad­ver­tently try to give you, which are not neces­sa­rily beneficial.

    Bill Moyers did a series, I think it was called “The Hea­ling Mind.” One of the seg­ments of this series was done on a fellow in Boli­nas, Cali­for­nia — a McArthur Prize Win­ner — named Michael Ler­ner –and he runs (or has run) an orga­ni­za­tion named Com­mon­weal. My father atten­ded there after his diag­no­sis of pros­tate can­cer. He ended up being one of his oncologist’s lon­gest living patients — she even wrote him up in a jour­nal. Lerner’s pro­gram is about inves­ti­ga­tion, lear­ning, and, most of all, choice. I believe that my Dad lived as long as he did lar­gely due to infor­ma­tion and con­nec­tions that he made in Bolinas.

    This is an area of intense inte­rest to me: people’s men­tal con­trol over their bodies and their health. It’s much clo­ser than most peo­ple think; they don’t need to be yogis :) .

    For you, and for your rea­ders — a short reading/​media list:
    * Nor­man Cou­sins’ Books: “Ana­tomy of an Ill­ness” and “The Hea­ling Heart” are ones I’ve read. He has some other booksthat look good as well.
    Cou­sins was the edi­tor of Satur­day Eve­ning Post and ended up on the faculty of the UCLA medi­cal school because of these books and the accom­plish­ments they desc­ribe.
    * O. Carl Simin­ton, MD & others: “Get­ting Well Again“
    * Andrew Weil “Spon­ta­neous Hea­ling“
    * Patch Adams, the movie

    Those are just star­ting sug­ges­tions — feel free to enjoy or ignore, as you wish (I’m wri­ting this not only for you, but for othera who may read your blog…). If you find them inte­res­ting, feel free to con­tact me for further resources.

    Judy Ket­tenho­fen
    Lighthouse Hyp­nothe­rapy & Health (no web­site at the pre­sent time).

  35. Don and Bea Williams said on:

    September 23, 2006 at 10:48 pm

    Syl­vie, we share your city with you and Michel.
    All our pra­yers and thoughts are with you at this time.
    From follo­wing Michel’s web site, news let­ters and blogs
    for seve­ral years, your intro­duc­tion into his life brought forth
    such happy times for both of you, it must con­ti­nue.
    God Bless!

  36. Pat Ginter said on:

    September 23, 2006 at 11:10 pm

    My thoughts are with you and wish you the best. With your posi­tive out­look on life you will soon have this bea­ten and be living life to its fullest with your won­der­ful soul­mate Michel!

    I would like to recom­mend a great health site to you
    http://​www​.cure​zone​.com this site is one of the top on the www.

    You both sound like great peo­ple and my thoughts are with you and your
    family.

    Look for­ward to get­ting to know you both bet­ter in the near future.

    Pat GIn­ter
    Regina, Sk.

    P.S. Check out our site as we have an all natu­ral energy drink that my finance’s mother has been drin­king since her bout with can­cer and chemo. She finds it helps her strength and energy levels.
    http://​www​.glo​bal​di​rect​net​work​.com

  37. Keith said on:

    September 24, 2006 at 3:51 am

    Hi Syl­vie, We met at this years Lon­don WIS and you impres­sed me by your zest for life and your eager­ness to help others. But these qua­li­ties of yours run much dee­per & are much stron­ger than when I wit­nes­sed them over those three days. You are an ins­pi­ra­tion of how to tac­kle the rough times in life. Michel is ama­zing also. What a team!
    Keith

  38. Dave said on:

    September 24, 2006 at 6:25 am

    Dear Syl­vie, I can’t pro­vide any input on breast can­cer, but I have sur­vi­ved lung can­cer twice and know how the first words and ensuing thought stream affect you life fore­ver­more.
    I can offer our pra­yers and a hope that your future with Michael is as great and long as you guys deserve.
    All our hope and love,
    Mary Ann and Dave

  39. gill said on:

    October 10, 2006 at 12:24 pm

    I ado­red your site. It rai­sed me up and made me recall my sister’s vic­tory. It has been almost 15 years since she fought her battle and came out hea­led.
    The les­son I lear­ned as a sis­ter was to be there as a pair of arms, a shoul­der and some ears and to not talk talk talk and offer advice etc. It was a hard les­son cos we think we’re hel­ping but in fact what the per­son wants is just to be held, heard and loved.

    God bless you.

    Gill

    XXXXXXXXXXXXXX

  40. Julies Journal - just julie's journal said on:

    October 11, 2006 at 1:09 pm

    Breast Can­cer Awa­re­ness Month…

    It’s been just over a year now since I had my scare of having breast can­cer, so I thought I would touch on the sub­ject just a bit since Octo­ber is Breast Can­cer Awa­re­ness Month. As scary as that was.…..

  41. Cathy said on:

    October 12, 2006 at 5:37 am

    As a subsc­ri­ber to Sylvie’s Wor­kaho­lics­forhire site, I’ve been ins­pi­red by Sylvie’s strength and deter­mi­na­tion in the work world. I get so much out of the site and feel pum­ped after rea­ding it.

    Now that I’ve heard this news, I feel so sad. And yet I know that Syl­vie is a strong, deter­mi­ned woman and once again I am truly ins­pi­red by her cou­rage as she faces an uncer­tain future.

    My mother had breast can­cer 10 years ago and I’m happy to say that she is can­cer free today. The prog­no­sis is so much bet­ter now than years ago with ear­lier detec­tion and bet­ter treatment.

    My thoughts and pra­yers are with you and your hus­band Michel. Take care.

  42. Shane Pettman said on:

    October 13, 2006 at 5:58 pm

    Hey Syl­vie I wish you all the best on your jour­ney to vic­tory. I would like to leave some ins­pi­ra­tion. First i have said a pra­yer for you. Second i would love to leave some great resour­ces for you to check into.

    The first one is http://​www​.the​sec​ret​.tv you may have already watched this but what a great triumph over breast can­cer Cindy Good­man had. Also the work on hea­ling from some other fellow Cana­dians at http://​www​.thehea​ling​co​des​.com AMAZING stuff.

    From the bot­tom of my heart and one Cana­dian to another GOD BLESS YOU.

  43. Laura Strebel said on:

    October 14, 2006 at 7:49 pm

    Syl­vie,
    I’ve been a curious rea­der of the Workaholic’s web­site for a little while and when I went on today, I read your news. First of all, con­gra­tu­la­tions on your wed­ding. Fin­ding your soul­mate is no small accom­plish­ment. Second, Octo­ber 6th was my one year anni­ver­sary of finishing che­mothe­rapy treat­ment for breast can­cer. I’d had a mas­tec­tomy in March and finished radia­tion treat­ments in January of this year.

    I wish I could say that we’re part of a very small group but that is not the case. Howe­ver, there are more and more long term sur­vi­vors. I plan on being one and I’m con­fi­dent that you will also. Although you don’t know me, I would like to offer any advise, con­so­le­ment, encou­ra­ge­ment that I can. Some­ti­mes someone unk­nown that has already been down a cer­tain path, can be just what one needs. I know. I met some won­der­ful friends as I was tra­ve­ling that path such a short time ago.

    Inci­den­tally, make sure you get a copy of the patho­logy report of your sur­gery and keep a copy. You will need it to refer to as your treat­ment pro­gres­ses. I was told this bit of infor­ma­tion when I first star­ted and found it was inva­lua­ble. (It was sug­ges­ted by a male vic­tim of breast can­cer. It’s not just a women’s disease.) Also, check into cli­ni­cal stu­dies. I was in one for white blood cell treat­ment during che­mothe­rapy and it really hel­ped. Please feel free to ask me any ques­tions or just to vent. Wel­come (?) to the BC Sisterhood.

    There is an exce­llent chat and medi­cal infor­ma­tion site for sur­vi­vors and care­ta­kers of Breast Can­cer. It’s breast​can​cer​.org and it’s won­der­ful! Any ques­tion you may have can be ans­we­red by any num­ber of peo­ple that have gone through the same thing.

    I will follow your blog as you step into this new world and wish you all the hap­pi­ness with your hubby and suc­cess in the future.

  44. Marjo and Chuck Norlin said on:

    October 17, 2006 at 10:14 am

    Hi Syl­vie,

    You have it right going in,
    POSITIVE ATTITUDE! PA pre­vails in all things of life.
    FOCUS-​​on the cure, not the disease.
    PURPOSE-​​attention to sur­vi­val, not yiel­ding to the can­cer. DETERMINATION-​​to do your best each day, regard­less of what is hap­pe­ning to you and around you.
    PRAYER-​​yours and ever­yone in the world who will join your per­so­nal pra­yer chain, thou­sands of us.
    LOVE-​​loving everything with an open soul.
    COMITTMENT-​​to the suc­cess of your adven­ture and a posi­tive out­come. CONTROL-​​unbending and unyiel­ding to this mean little crit­ter, you are in charge now, today, and every day after-​​FIGHT BACK!

    We will hold you in our pra­yers, and when you need a gentle touch or a soft hug, reach out and take one, whe­ne­ver, always, there are millions of them everywhere just wai­ting for you.

    M/​C

    May God bless you and yours moment by moment.

  45. Andrew Golden said on:

    October 23, 2006 at 9:14 pm

    Life is 10% what hap­pens to you and 90% how you deal with it.” You’re a clear exam­ple of this.

    Gods­peed.

  46. Kathy Sugio said on:

    October 30, 2006 at 12:18 am

    I like that…“Get lost FEAR!” I’m trud­ging along on my breast can­cer treat­ment /​ mana­ge­ment jour­ney and find much ins­pi­ra­tion in your pos­tings. Best wishes for smooth sai­ling and many many happy and healthy years ahead.

  47. ann marie chamberlain said on:

    December 9, 2006 at 10:57 pm

    I will be can­cer free for one year on decem­ber 12, 2006. I was stage 3 with a 2cm lump was told I would lose my left breast no mat­ter what. Went through 8 chemo treat­ments the last 4 being the worse but got through it. Wor­ked the whole time too as you are. One week after last chemo they could not find the lump I did have sur­gery dec 12 but just to take the area and nodes in that area out. That came back clean no can­cer!! Can­cer can be a killer but YOU can change that by FIGHTING always be posi­tive in your thoughts even when you feel like crap fight. Yes you can cry but after that go back to figh­ting your battle for life. Your very young and have a lot to live for go for it!! As one who has been there and done that it’s worth it feel free to con­tact me. Keep doing what you are it’s wor­king and I will add you to my pra­yer list as other did for me. FIGHT!!

  48. phyllis foster said on:

    January 13, 2007 at 12:17 am

    I too am a breast can­cer sur­vi­vor I am into my third year now. Keep posi­tive. Your friends and family will sup­port you and love you in your battle. You will win. God bless.

  49. Barb Rosier said on:

    February 12, 2007 at 4:19 pm

    I am a breast can­cer sur­vi­vor and I am in my 15th year. I am proud to share my expe­rience with all. It has made me a more posi­tive and con­fi­dent person.

    I met you, Syl­vie, at Big8 Semi­nar in Atlanta and I clic­ked with you “imme­dia­tely.” You are a beau­ti­ful per­son and you ARE win­ning your battle.

    GOD bless you always,

    Barb Rosier

  50. Bandee Adler said on:

    March 11, 2007 at 1:53 pm

    Hi Syl­vie–
    I’m so glad I found someone who has the same atti­tude as me — I recei­ved my diag­no­sis on my son’s 6th bith­day, Decem­ber 21, 2006. I have had my sur­gery, have star­ted radia­tion & should start chemo in a few weeks. (I’m in a cou­ple of stu­dies on early-​​stage BC which is why my radia­tion is first). I have 3 kids of my own & can tell you that I have abso­lu­tely no time at all to give to this disease. I will not even give it the time of day.
    I don’t know where you are from (your name sounds like you could be from Mon­treal??) If you are, please e-​​mail me back — it would be nice to have a woman friend who I can share this with! Good luck!!

  51. Brandee Adler said on:

    March 11, 2007 at 1:54 pm

    Hi Syl­vie–
    I’m so glad I found someone who has the same atti­tude as me — I recei­ved my diag­no­sis on my son’s 6th bith­day, Decem­ber 21, 2006. I have had my sur­gery, have star­ted radia­tion & should start chemo in a few weeks. (I’m in a cou­ple of stu­dies on early-​​stage BC which is why my radia­tion is first). I have 3 kids of my own & can tell you that I have abso­lu­tely no time at all to give to this disease. I will not even give it the time of day.
    I don’t know where you are from (your name sounds like you could be from Mon­treal??) If you are, please e-​​mail me back — it would be nice to have a woman friend who I can share this with! Good luck!!

  52. Leah said on:

    May 7, 2007 at 5:23 pm

    Hi Syl­vie

    I came across this site as I was nos­ying at your hubs webs­pace which I came across while nos­ying at someone elses. I’m a mem­ber of his CW board.

    You are a brave lady, one of many who have con­tri­bu­ted their sto­ries here. I had a near brush with cer­vi­cal can­cer myself May last yr. For­tu­na­tely it was Pre-​​cancer not can­cer can­cer. Check-​​up annually now for 10yrs.

    I wrote a blog (far back in the archi­ves) on http://www.myspace/theoryofr, you and the ladies here may relate to called ‘Fear of death– who do you talk to’.

    It’s something I couldn’t really share when I was ‘in it’ but as you say the wri­ting helps a lot to exter­na­lise those fee­lings and keep them at a nice safe distance.

    Any­way, I wish you and your family all the best, and take it easy.

    Leah x

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  54. Evelyn Khoo said on:

    June 14, 2007 at 1:06 am

    I am also a breast can­cer survivor…your site is very help­ful and ins­pi­ra­tio­nal .. I am loo­king for­ward to a new day every night..Life is now great after the long and tedious fight against my bc.. I can’t believe myself that I am a proud dra­gon boat rower at my age.I will most cer­tainly visit your site when I am online.God Bless.

    xxxx…Evelyn

  55. Sister Study said on:

    June 22, 2007 at 4:35 pm

    How would you like to make a dif­fe­rence in breast can­cer research? The Sis­ter Study needs your help to deter­mine if breast can­cer is cau­sed by something women come in con­tact with at work, at home, in their com­mu­ni­ties or in the per­so­nal pro­ducts they use.

    The Sis­ter Study is loo­king for 50,000 women to help dis­co­ver the envi­ron­men­tal and gene­tic cau­ses of the disease. Women ages 35 to 74 are eli­gi­ble to join if their sis­ter (living or decea­sed), rela­ted to them by blood, had breast can­cer; they have never had breast can­cer them­sel­ves; and they live in the Uni­ted Sta­tes or Puerto Rico.

    ENROLL TODAY or simply help spread the word to women in your com­mu­nity! Either way, you can help find the cau­ses of breast cancer!!

    For more infor­ma­tion visit http://​www​.sis​ters​tudy​.org or http://​www​.estu​dio​deher​ma​nas​.org. Call toll-​​free 1–877-4SISTER. Deaf/​Hard of Hea­ring call 1–866-TTY-4SIS.

  56. Jennifer said on:

    October 4, 2007 at 1:40 pm

    Hey! You have a brave story and thank you for sha­ring it. As a com­mu­nity, we can all help out and make a dif­fe­ren­ces. Espe­cially now that it is Natio­nal Breast Can­cer Awa­re­ness month, we can all do our small part. Con­tri­bute to a cha­rity, volun­teer for an orga­ni­za­tion, help friends and family, go that extra mile! I dona­ted some money to my favo­rite BC orga­ni­za­tions at Res­pec­tance, which for­tu­na­tely has no ser­vice charge, and I encou­rage you all to help in any way pos­si­ble. This is the month to take a step out of the door and do something posi­tive that will make us all feel better.

  57. Janna said on:

    May 6, 2008 at 8:27 am

    Good after­noon, Силвия!!!!!
    You the heroic woman! I up to depth of soul was sha­ken with your self-​​control in this situa­tion. The god will neces­sa­rily renu­me­rate you to opti­mism and skill to be sen­si­tive and to other women who can appear in the same situa­tion.
    You do very much an impor­tant issue! I have lear­ned about you casually, stud­ying mate­rials of your hus­band about a copy­right. Also I write to you because it is admi­red by you and your busi­ness!!! Con­ti­nue to write even when abso­lu­tely reco­ver! It is neces­sary for peo­ple! To Maine call Jeanne, I from Rus­sia and at us in the country a pro­blem of a can­cer of a breast cost also sharply as well as all over the world. In my life there is one vivid exam­ple con­nec­ted with this disease. The sis­ter of my mum was ill with a can­cer of female bodies and after химеотерапии and various pro­ce­du­res, the doc­tor has told to rela­ti­ves what to live to it remains about six months. But the aunt with it is not agreed, at it cha­rac­ter was such. It con­ti­nued to live usual, very inten­sive life of the sim­ple Rus­sian woman. And ill­ness as though was frigh­te­ned… Also has rece­ded. Doc­tors did not trust it, but the aunt has lived 27 more years and has died of an old age in the age of 87 years And I trust, that if the per­son con­ti­nues to live thin­king not about ill­ness, and that ahead still is a lot of years of a life, and this life so is neces­sary to many peo­ple. The Soviet wri­ter Niko­lay Ostrovsky has very well told about it: ” the Most dear at the per­son is a life. It is given to it once, and to live it it is neces­sary so that was not pain­fully sick for aim­lessly lived years that did not burn down a shame for подленькое and the petty past and that, dying, could tell: all life and all for­ces have been given to the finest in the world — to strug­gle for clea­ring of man­kind ” Hap­pi­ness to you and the health, dear!!!!
    Excuse if it is writ­ten стилистически not pre­ci­sely, I to the shame do not know English language.

  58. Daniel said on:

    October 4, 2009 at 5:53 pm

    Syl­vie,
    I was won­de­ring if you might be willing to pro­mote a great cause in your blog. It is an inno­va­tive fun­drai­sing effort inten­ded to raise $3 million for can­cer research, called “The Big Bundle”.

    ABC News just cove­red this ini­tia­tive… http://​bit​.ly/​A​B​C​_​N​e​w​s​_​T​h​e​B​i​g​B​u​n​dle

    Can­cer affects nearly ever­yone, yet in eco­no­mic cli­mate, peo­ple are fin­ding it dif­fi­cult to donate.

    The​Big​Bundle​.com makes it easy for ever­yone to do his or her part. In return for a $29.99 dona­tion, con­su­mers get $700 worth of free­bies. Con­su­mers get pro­ducts (e.g., Trend­Micro Anti­Vi­rus, Zagat, Snap­fish, etc), ser­vi­ces (Skype, GoDaddy, Tri­pIt, etc), and dis­counts (Hotels​.com, Gap, Lan­come, Nords­troms, etc) from 32 companies.

    If you could write about this, it would surely help the cause!
    Thanks Syl­vie,
    Daniel

  59. Leonore Dvorkin said on:

    November 13, 2009 at 2:56 pm

    Nov. 13, 2009 /​ Den­ver, CO
    Dear Syl­vie,
    I’m not even sure who first told me about this site, but I’m glad I found it. My very best wishes to you for future good health! Stay strong. Thanks to all the rest of you who wrote, too, with such caring mes­sa­ges. Those are very impor­tant to can­cer patients.
    I’m now 63, and had a left-​​side mas­tec­tomy (no recons­truc­tion) in 1998, at the age of 52. The expe­rience was so sig­ni­fi­cant and life-​​changing for me — mainly in good ways — that I wrote a whole book about it.
    That book has now been re-​​issued. It’s ANOTHER CHANCE AT LIFE: A BREAST CANCER SURVIVOR’S JOURNEY (Nori­lana Books, 2009), by Leo­nore Dvor­kin. It will also come out in Spa­nish in 2010. The paper­back is only $9.95, and just $8.95 to Bar­nes and Noble mem­bers on http://​www​.bn​.com. I hope you will check it out. It covers my per­so­nal medi­cal details, the emo­tio­nal bene­fits I gai­ned, my phi­lo­sophy on dea­ling with any of life’s lar­ger cri­ses, and much more. It also con­tains some 40 pages of appen­di­ces that cover risk fac­tors for breast can­cer and a lot more.
    Details are on my web­site: http://​www​.dvor​kin​.com
    You can see the cover (I took the cover photo), my photo, review quo­tes, excerpts from the text, and more.
    Thanks to all who read my mes­sage, and good health and hap­pi­ness to all of you!

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